![]() Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right. You may have heard one of the following quotes before: – Frank Outlaw.Want to jump straight to the full book summary? Here you go- Eternal Purpose: “The Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren (Book Summary) Watch your character, it becomes your destiny. Watch your habits they become your character. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your thoughts, they become your words. But thats the beauty in it, we can control our thoughts, and in turn decide our destiny. Our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character, and our character becomes our destiny. Think of all the things in a day that you employ as evidence to your negative thoughts. We ingrain them into our values as we recite them over and over again. These thoughts we recite as we re-play the negative evidence become our beliefs.The more we say something to ourselves the more we believe it. We play them over and over in our heads and damage the image we have of ourselves. ![]() Worthy of friendship.Īs human beings we take in so many incidences and allow them to serve as evidence for reasons why we should diminish our self-worth. I am caring, loyal, and go out of my way to do things for others.” Now I can let go of the negative belief and dismiss the incident as a misunderstanding and allow myself to relish in my new positive feeling. In this situation I would think, “I am a good friend. ![]() Now take these new thoughts and intertwine them into your perception of yourself, relating it not only to the initial situation but your whole persona. Maybe they are distraught over a situation that happened earlier in the day… Maybe they are extremely busy and while running through their “To-Do List” for the day they didn’t even notice you had passed…Maybe they just simply didn’t realize it was you. Think logically of other reasons that could have caused your friend to pass by without greeting you. Now start to develop an effective philosophy. Simply saying “stop” out loud can work, or try swiping your foot across the ground as if you are brushing away the negative thoughts. Acknowledge the thought, and then think of a trigger word or action to cease the thoughts. (They must not like me, or they are avoiding me.) This is where the thought stopping technique comes in handy. This time we pass our friend in the hallway, and again they don’t acknowledge us. Let’s go through the scenario again using a disputing intervention. In order to change the consequence outcome we must stop the original belief thought process and replace it with a new one. Most peoples’s immediate belief, or thought process, would be “They must not like me, or they are avoiding me.” Then we react due to our belief and we suffer the consequence of a change in mood or even a physical behavior in some situations. ![]() Let’s say for example, you are walking through a school or work common area and a friend passes you without acknowledging you. It looks something like this.įirst a person must encounter an event to activate a response, hence the term “activating event”. ![]() In Cognitive Behavior therapy they break down a persons reactions into a thought process following an activating event. It all clicked during a lecture on Cognitive Behavior Therapy in my Psychology of Counseling Class this last spring. It wasn’t until about three years after I initially learned about this technique that I realized it could help me in other situations, like my social, romantic, and educational aspects of life. Thought stopping is a common technique used in sport psychology to help athletes refocus by eliminating negative thoughts, but have you ever considered using this method throughout your everyday life? I hadn’t. ![]()
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